7 Successful Relationship Secrets
It’s not diamonds and flowers that make a relationship remain as warm, loving and intimate as it was at the start. It’s the little things. So check out the tips that follow.
1. Praise Your Partner for the Little Things
If there’s something you appreciate about your partner, from the way he or she makes scrambled eggs to how hard he or she is working on decorating the bedroom, speak up. Praise provides a reminder of your love.
2. Be Thoughtful
The good we do tends to come back to us. When you’re thoughtful to your partner, he or she’s more inclined to be thoughtful in return. So remember to buy each other’s favourite dessert, cut out or email articles you think your partner might like, or take on the other’s jobs like arranging for your partner to have a day off, with no housework or expectations.
3. Keep Your Promises
Failing to keep your word can destroy the unity and trust in a relationship. It’s better to say ‘Let me think about it’ than to say you’ll do something but fail to deliver.
4. Share Your Passions
Take turns choosing an arts or cultural event to attend together each month. The point is to show your partner what you love, so that he or she can experience it as you do (or close enough). To make this work, both of you have to be flexible: someone might have to attend a football match or the theatre. The reward lies in experiencing each other’s passion. And who knows – you may have a lot more fun than you ever imagined.
6. Play the Honeymoon Game
Do something for your partner that you did when you were newlyweds or first got together. Make a special meal. Send some flowers after a night of lovemaking. Tuck notes in unexpected places or leave sexy messages on your partner’s mobile phone.
7. Discuss the Big Things in Life
When you were courting, did you talk for hours about current events or the meaning of life? If all you seem to talk about now is the grocery shopping or how much to spend on a new sofa, reintroduce meaningful conversation into your relationship. Try this: one night, while you’re in front of the TV or in the car, make a provocative (but not hurtful) remark about something your partner cares deeply about – the government, a sportsman or woman – something that will get his or her dander up. He or she will disagree, of course, which will get the ball rolling. And keep it rolling!